Monday, October 5, 2009
Monday, August 31, 2009
Monday, June 22, 2009
It's hard to believe that it's been almost 10 years since we moved into Heartwood Cohousing and our dream of life in community became a reality. In those 10 years Heartwood has developed into quite an amazing little village. Our relationships have deepened immensely, the children are thriving, our ability to make wise decisions together and resolve conflicts continues to improve, the gardens and landscaping are flourishing, and I think it's safe to say that we've all grown individually as a result of living together in community. We are living the dream.
Friday, May 22, 2009
Farmer's Almanac
Monday, May 4, 2009
2009 Heartwood Retreat
2009 Heartwood Retreat - Dinner
Friday, May 1, 2009
2009 Heartwood Retreat - Saturday 4
We finished the day with Kinesthetic Modeling led by Beth. We used sacks of ‘holy scrap’ and built models first in small group and then as one large group. The project was done in silence and then debriefed. Most people felt most comfortable in the small groups and eventually found their place in the larger group. The debriefs were very informative.
2009 Heartwood Retreat - Saturday 3
Dynamic Continuum is a process choreographed and led by Anne to help us see where we are on the ‘continuum scale’. It’s similar to the horseshoe model we’ve used in the past where each person lines on the horseshoe one end being comfortable and the other end not comfortable with the concept presented, such as ‘conflict’. Anne’s movement based exercise allows room for the concept that all situations are dynamic and can change moment to moment. The middle of the circle is where we feel connected to the situation or each other…..and the outer edges of the circle is where we do not feel connected. Anne presented concepts such as you’re at a common meal, you’re at a common meal and you’ve had a hard day, you’re cooking a common meal. It was fun the see the visual of where people feel connected and where they do not.
2009 Heartwood Retreat - Saturday 2
Next Fran presented her ChoiceCards; a visual, auditory & kinesthetic representation of the language of compassion. It’s a way to bring to awareness of our choices and with every choice we can play with the distinctions of what unites and what separates. We can choose from a framework based separation, domination, life-alienating, power over/under & violence. Or a framework based on unity, life-enhancing, life-serving, power with, contributing to the well being of people and planet. ChoiceCards was developed and presented through her story of being mis-understood and her quest for integrity and to be understood.
2009 Heartwood Retreat - Saturday 1
Saturday March 7 opened with Beth presenting ‘Our Stories’. In order for our minds to compile the vast amount of information that comes our way we form ‘mental models’ based on images. Most of these mental models are formed by the time we are 6 or 7 years old. And we all have different mental models, kind of like ‘different languages’ even though we all speak English.
From these unique mental models we create stories. Some of these stories unite us and we acknowledged that these exist and are working well in our quest of collaboration and community living. And some of these stories separate us. These are the places we bump into each other, feed frustration, lack understanding and generally create conflict. We chose to look at the stories that separate us in small break-out groups and then shared the stories with the larger group. This is what separates us.
We discovered that what is underneath these stories is usually a deeper story like I’ll die, I’ll be kicked out from the tribe and left alone to die, I be disconnected with life yet remain among the living in the tribe. Frightening and scary stuff!!